Contemplative Retreat for Couples

Who is this retreat for?

Loving Awake is a retreat for committed couples called to deepen the foundation of their lives and relationship in inner work and contemplative practice.  This retreat is by application only. It is intended for couples who 
have done significant previous personal and relational work.  While none of us is free from uncomfortable relational dynamics, you:

  • Fundamentally like, love, respect and enjoy your partner (Not that they don’t still sometimes drive you crazy!)

  • Have a good track record of dealing skillfully with relational issues

  • Practice self-responsibility for your triggers and your impact (most of the time)

  • When you get off track, you recover quickly 

  • You both have committed meditation /spiritual practices that are valued parts of your lives. 

We consider this retreat a next step for couples who have worked with us before, but others who feel these criteria are a good fit, are encouraged to apply.  Hetero and LGBTQ couples warmly welcomed.

What to expect

Loving Awake is a new offering emerging from the integration of our own individual and relational life with our contemplative study and practice.  With 50 years of partnership behind us, we find ourselves infused with love, acceptance, grace and purpose as our practice continues to unfold.  We invite you to share a week with your beloved to deepen in love while building pathways that explore and integrate the individual, relational and spiritual expressions of your life.

During our time together you will be supported to:

  • Learn to welcome and work with the challenges in your relationship as doorways into awakening rather than obstacles or distractions.

  • Evoke greater love, compassion and kindness.

  • Learn relational practices that help free you and your partner from unhealthy relational patterning (vs. managing their impact).

  • Learn how to harness the power of your relational field to deepen and empower your spiritual connection and practice.

  • Explore the sacredness of your sensual connection.

  • Dance; explore the gift of shared silence; chant; celebrate and commune with the beauty and power of the natural world. 

What to Expect:

  1. Our work is primarily experiential woven with some teaching and dialogue.

  2. Our schedule will involve approximately 6 hours a day of class time. Most of the time you will be 1-1 with your partner, along with some solo practices and occasional small group sessions when this supports our purpose. 

  3. We will offer practices for you to do outside of class time, such as spending some time in silence, shared meditations and sensual “home play”. 

  4. There will be lots of open, unscheduled time every day for you to enjoy each other in this beautiful place.

  5. There will be several optional excursions including hikes, whale-watching and a traditional sweat lodge ceremony.

Your retreat setting

Mar de Jade is a lovely retreat center right on the beach in Chacala, Mexico.  We discovered this little jewel 16 years ago, and have treasured it ever since.  Mar de Jade has true Mexican charm and is a safe and quiet haven.  The owners’ commitment to service to the local community, health and spirituality make it a perfect home for our retreats. 

What participants say:

“I saw my wife as if for the first time…with a freshness and openness that I have never experienced before. We are entering sacred ground together. What a gift!”

-JS Tampa, Florida

Loving Awake

February 29 - March 7, 2020

Mar de Jade
Chacala, Mexico

By application only.

For more information or assistance, please contact our workshop coordinator.


Tuition is a sliding scale from $1200-$2200 per couple.  Rooms are an additional $300-400 per couple per night (including all meals, but do not include 19% taxes).  The rooms vary significantly, so be sure to discuss your needs and preferences with Mar de Jade (e.g. king or queen bed, etc.)

Do familiarize yourself with their refund policy.  Upon acceptance to the retreat, please reserve rooms early as Mar de Jade is heavily booked in February.

We are experimenting with a self-selected sliding scale to facilitate being able to offer lower rates to those who might otherwise not be able to attend.

Please choose your level of tuition.  All prices are per couple.

$2200.00   (for those willing to pay extra to support those with lower income to attend)
$1860.00   (standard tuition)
$1200.00   (for those who need a lower fee in order to attend; limited # of spots available)

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